The Pretty-Good Baby
Do you have the pretty-good baby? Well that all depends on what you consider pretty and good. Because if not, you might have an ugly-bad baby. Let’s take a quick look at what I mean to see if what type of baby you have?
Many times, parents of a new baby are asked this question and don’t even realize what idea is being portrayed when it is asked. This question can come in various forms: Is your baby a good sleeper? Is he a good eater? Is he a good baby in general? Is he calm all of the time and let you do what you want to do? Basically does your baby sit there and look pretty so that you can carry on your life like before?
If you’re answer is no to any of these, then you’re basically answering yes to the opposite question: Is your baby a bad sleeper? Is he a bad eater? Is he a bad baby in general? Is he high maintenance and want your attention all of the time? Does your baby not sit there and look pretty (he looks ugly) and you can’t carry on your life like before? Then you have an ugly-bad baby!
Wait Christine! How can you say that I have an ugly-bad baby? There’s no such thing!
Exactly! There’s no such thing as an ugly-bad baby, so what do we make of the pretty-good babies?
All babies are beautiful gifts from God, and they are neither bad nor good. They are babies, plain and simple. Everyone is different. Some sleep better than others, some cry more than others, some want to be held more than others, but that’s not bad or good. That’s how a baby’s personality.
Many times we ask or answer these questions about whether a baby is a good sleeper or eater, or whatever, but we don’t realize what we are really saying. We want to know if they are conforming to our way of living or not. A baby can’t conform to how we want to live. A baby is a baby! And needs to learn to communicate, to sleep, how to eat, and most importantly needs her parents’ love, care, patience, and touch. All of these are so important for a baby to be able to develop correctly into the stable healthy human beings. Some babies might need them more than others. Some might need them in different areas, but they are all needed. If we as a society understand this, then possibly parents might have a more realistic idea of how each baby’s needs differ and they could receive the support and guidance that they need.
So next time your asked if your baby is a good sleeper, even if she wakes up 6 times at night and sleeps throughout the day, say “yes, my baby does just what she is supposed to do.” Her schedule will change soon enough, and with the patience and love that you give her, you and she will form a special relationship that will help her many years in the future.